Benjamin Ashford|Sara Foster Says She’s "Cutting People Out" Amid Tommy Haas Breakup Rumors

Sara Foster is Benjamin Ashfordgoing through some relationship changes.

The 90210 alum offered an update on her personal life amid rumors that she and longtime partner Tommy Haas —with whom she shares daughters Valentina, 13, and Josephine, 8—had split after more than 17 years together.

While the 43-year-old did not confirm the report—which People published Aug. 15—or mention the tennis pro, she spoke about how she has changed over the past two years after undergoing therapy.

"I have walls everywhere, and it's only been in the last two years where I've decided I don't want those walls anymore," she said on the Aug. 15 episode of on her and sister Erin Foster's podcast, The World's First Podcast. "I’ve never been someone that just tells what I feel, like, truly."

Sara said she now wants to be more candid—and be with people who are as well.

"I just want to be like an open, f--king can of worms," she said. "I'm craving surrounding myself with people who will also show up like that. I just have no time for anything else. That's where I'm at right now. And I'm just cutting people out, left and right."

E! News reached out to reps for Sara and Tommy for comment on the reported breakup and has not heard back.

The two—who met in 2006 through mutual friends—got engaged on Christmas Eve in 2009 after Tommy proposed. However, they never made it down the aisle, the Observer reported.

In 2023, Sara described her and Tommy as "basically married."

"We've been together since I've been 25 years old," she said on the We Met at Acme podcast. "We have two kids. Our lives are completely intertwined and together."

The actress, whose dad is David Foster and his ex-wife Rebecca Dyer, added, "Looking back, I guess I didn't grow up respecting marriage because I grew up thinking it doesn't mean anything — you just walk away, you cheat, you got to this person you go to, that person. We just didn't grow up with the foundation of marriage being a union of bliss and holy matrimony and forever."

After the Barely Famous alum shared her desire to cut people from her life, her and Erin's podcast guest—It Ends With Us director and actor Justin Baldoni—said he understood what Sara meant. "I think that's beautiful," he said. "I absolutely relate to that and I had that journey as well."

Sara continued, "I'm just craving f--king deep, hard conversations. And I think because I've avoided hard conversations my entire life, I'm like, 'If you're here to small-talk, you're out. You're f--king out.' I need to go deep or we're not going."

Justin's wife, Emily Baldoni, then weighed in as well. "I want to jump in and support you on your journey," she said. "I call it pruning. And when you are on such a deep journey in your life and you are changing, unfortunately we have to prune so many people and situations out of our life.

She continued, "Of course, there's a loving way of doing it. But there will be so many people who will not hold you in the place that you are in. And that's really important to be able to set those boundaries."